Sexual Desire Problems -- What You Can Do

Self-Care at Home

Treatment is not needed for all sexual problems. Some problems can be solved by you and your partner alone with a little openness and creativity.

Some problems go away by themselves over time--patience and understanding are all that is required.
Sometimes talking the problem out with your partner is enough. Women who learn to tell their partners about their sexual needs have a better chance of having a satisfying sex life.
Try to make the solution is fun--think up ways to inject a little romance and excitement into your sexual routine.

Some strategies women use to overcome sexual problems:

Set aside time to be alone or alone with your partner, without children and other distractions
Use erotic videos or books to increase stimulation
Masturbate to learn about what increases your arousal
Fantasize about what arouses you sexually; if appropriate, tell your partner about these fantasies
Use sensual massage and other forms of touch
Try new sexual positions or scenarios
Use relaxation techniques such as a warm bath before having sex
Use a vaginal lubricant to relieve arousal problems due to vaginal dryness

Several excellent books are available in mainstream bookstores or from mail-order sources to help couples deal with sexual and communication problems. Many people prefer this "do-it-yourself" method to talking about these problems with an outsider.

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